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People don't send thank you notes anymore?

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ColdBacon	People don't send thank you notes anymore?	Lead	[-]
Posts: 3740 (02/13/07 15:20:10) The Sauce Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	Tags : None The last four people to whom I have sent wedding gifts did not sent thank you notes. Is it just me or is this a societal trend? If so, then what should we think about this trend? Should such "leniency" be granted as an acceptable and even necessary "concession" to modernism, a shared sense of global competition in an ever-more complicated and demanding world? In other words, we can keep one step ahead of the Chinese if we let them waste all their time writing thank you notes while we do something advanced with that time. Is this the new and mutually agreed upon arangement?
green2	miss manners says	#1	[-]
Posts: 54 (02/13/07 19:13:51) Tiddly Wink Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	I think you have to give them at least a year for thank you notes, and an email will not do. Maybe you should give thank you notes as a gift at the next wedding you attend.
ColdBacon	Re: miss manners says	#2	[-]
Posts: 3740 (02/14/07 08:37:36) The Sauce Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	*Quote:* I have been fortunate enough to receive thank you notes for the last two gifts I sent so maybe its not a sea change. There is, however, a rule that gives the inundated couple up to a year to respond. Some do better; some do worse. Some may find marriage itself so overwhelming it obliterates all memory. Others may simply have never seen the gifts (in storage at Moms house) and, on account of poor bookkeeping or such, dont know a gift arrived that requires acknowledgment. (I doubt these last two, however.) No. Not modern, not agreed upon, not even geopolitically wise. Just lazy and disorganized, Im afraid. This is assuming that the new husband does all the t-ys from his side, of course. Just illustrates to the happy couple and prospective ones: they shouldnt be greedy about inviting too many people. Small weddings = less stuff = fewer obligations for expressing fulsome gratitude. - GFH
Mockingbirdbat	Re: miss manners says	#3	[-]
Posts: 879 (04/23/07 14:11:58) Dwayne Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	Actually, I'm pretty sure that "year rule" applies to the gifting, not the thanking. In other words, you've got a year from the wedding (to which you were invited) to get the couple a gift. As far as I know, the thank-you cards from said couple should start generating at some reasonable point after they get back from honeymoon. If you give a couple a gift at their wedding and you don't get a thank-you note in, say, a month or two (depending on duration of honeymoon), then you get to hate that couple forever. I will support you in this, if in nothing else.
ColdBacon	Re: miss manners says	#4	[-]
Posts: 3740 (04/23/07 15:41:41) The Sauce Reply Quote More My Recent Posts Message Me Connection Blocking Invite Ignore User's Posts	yes. only now i forgot who i get to hate.

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